Comments on: Explaining Why Financially Independent Men Rarely Call Their Mothers

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 05:39:02 +0000

You guys who don’t call and ignore your mothers’ are jerks. Too bad your mothers’ didn’t abort you ungrateful pieces of garbage. Or better yet, they should have left you bloody turds in a toilet bowl.

By: Joe

Joe — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 13:55:09 +0000

I also think this baby boy is a disgrace. He is not a man. A real man makes it his business to keep in touch with his mother. Its called respect, honor thy mother, love thy mother. She is the woman who gave birth to me, and has unconditional love for me. I don’t over do it and never feel obligated when I call my mom. I do it because I care about how she is doing, and I love her. I’ve never felt forced in anyway to cater to my mom, and I don’t do that, although she deserves to be catered to. I am a married financially independent male and my wife doesn’t call my mom, she says she doesn’t have time. I love my wife and children and don’t care if my wife ignores my mother. I don’t think my mother cares either. I have a very happy marriage, however, when my wife gets old and grey maybe our son’s wife will give her the cold shoulder. She will probably be to busy for her.

By: mug

mug — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 04:45:57 +0000

I think this guy is juvenile and disgraceful. Of course men need to break away from their parents, including their mums, but to say that to neglect your mum on a regular basis is manly thing to do is ridiculous. He intimated that his mum rarely even got a call on Mother’s Day. Wow, what a guy! What a man! Wow, any woman would want this guy in her life…look how he treats his own mother. I think he is a disgrace. Honoring him mum on special day is a sign of a true man, just for starters. So hope he is dishonored by his own kids someday when he is old and lonely…he will truly deserve it.

By: JustADatingBird

JustADatingBird — Wed, 28 May 2008 04:21:37 +0000

I’m afraid you’ve fallen into the logical fallacy of extrapolating from your own personal biases to assume that your beliefs are universal.

I’m not certain that mature, grounded, self-actualized men need to “break away” from their mothers in order to feed their ego needs for a juvenile kind of independence.

In fact, mature and psychologically balanced men have healthy relationships with their parents and siblings, that reaches a healthy middle ground between dependence and neglect.

And when a woman meets a guy, if he has nothing to do with his mother, that is as big a red flag as if he has an oedipal crush on her.

Don’t believe me? Ask a woman. Or a mother. Or a shrink.

Or even just a grown up guy.

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 19 May 2008 22:40:13 +0000

I think it’s great to stay in contact with your mom but not to ask for money. When you’ve matured to the point that you save more money than your parents do on a much smaller income, I think you’re really an adult. Has anyone else found themselves in this situation? I have - and I still talk to my mom every week or two.

By: Investment Advising and Financial Planning Services

Investment Advising and Financial Planning Services — Fri, 16 May 2008 13:08:28 +0000

Great Stuff!

By: Raymond

Raymond — Fri, 16 May 2008 05:12:14 +0000

Haha…yes my mom has definitely resigned herself to the reality that she has sons and not daughters. I think she still wishes sometimes that she had at least one daughter who would be able to call her more regularly though..

By: AJC @ 7million7years

AJC @ 7million7years — Fri, 16 May 2008 03:03:09 +0000

LOL - Great Post!

My mother also lives overseas … we haven’t spoken for 3 weeks (I’ve been travelling, as one does when one is financially independently retired) … but, I think she’s getting used to me not calling (or is the correct word ‘resigned’?).

Solution: I’ll get YOUR Mother to call MY Mother and they can moan and groan about how we never call … that way they’ll be much too busy with each other to worry about whether we do call or not in future!

AJC.